A quick guide to asking R U OK?

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A quick guide to asking R U OK?

A quick guide to asking R U OK?

Getting ready to ask
Be ready
  • Are you in a good headspace?
  • Are you willing to genuinely listen?
  • Can you give as much time as needed?
Be prepared
  • Remember that you won’t have all the answers (which is OK)
  • If someone is talking about personal struggles this can be difficult and they might get emotional, embarrassed or upset
Pick your moment
  • Have you chosen somewhere relatively private and informal?
  • What time will be good for them to chat? Ideally try and put aside at least an hour so you have ample time to have a meaningful chat
  • If they can’t talk when you approach them, ask them for a better time to have a chat
Starting a conversation
Ask R U OK?
  • Be relaxed
  • Help them open up by asking questions like “How you going?” or “What’s been happening?” or “I’ve noticed that you’re not quite yourself lately. How are you travelling?”
  • Make an observation. Mention specific things that have made you concerned for them, like “I’ve noticed that you seem really tired recently” or “You seem less chatty than usual. How are you going?”
Listen
  • Take what they say seriously
  • Don’t interrupt or rush the conversation
  • If they need time to think, try and sit patiently with the silence
  • Encourage them to explain
  • If they get angry or upset, stay calm and don’t take it personally
  • Let them know you’re asking because you’re concerned
Encourage action
  • Ask them: “Where do you think we can go from here?”
  • Ask: “What would be a good first step we can take?”
  • Ask: “What do you need from me? How can I help?”
  • Good options for action might include talking to family, a trusted friend, their doctor or appropriate professional
Check in
  • Remember to check in and see how the person is doing in a few days’ time
  • Ask if they’ve found a better way to manage the situation
  • If they haven’t done anything, keep encouraging them and remind then you’re always here if they need a chat
  • Understand that sometimes it can take a long time for someone to be ready to see a professional
  • Try to reinforce the benefits of seeking professional help and trying different avenues
  • You could ask, ” Do you think it would be useful if we looked into finding some professional or other support?”
Useful contacts for someone who’s not OK

Encourage them to call on these Australian crisis lines and professionals.

Lifeline (24/7)

13 11 14

lifeline.org.au

Suicide Call Back Service (24/7)

1300 659 467

suicidecallbackservice.org.au

beyondblue (24/7)

1300 224 636

beyondblue.org.au

SANE Australia

1800 18 SANE (7263)

sane.org

More contacts

ruok.org.au/findhelp

 
For more information, click here to visit ruok.org.au

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